Are You Willing to Take the Drive?

When signs show up, but we’re still standing in the driveway…

I just released episode 19 on my podcast, Intuitive AF². I had a great conversation with Walter Shin of Curated Roads Club, and I haven’t stopped thinking about the road.

Not just the cars or the drives or the community of people who come together around something they love. I keep thinking about the actual road. The route. The detours. The moments where you think you’re headed one way, and then life, God, the Universe, Spirit, your intuition, your higher self, whatever language feels true for you, says, “Actually, let’s go this way.”

The detour is usually where we start to get nervous, fearful, blocked or feeling misaligned in our journey.

That’s when we start seeking out spiritual guidance. We pray for it and ask for all the signs. We want confirmation. We beg God to show us what we need to see. We wait for the Universe to send the message. We may pull cards, journal, meditate, talk to our friends, go to church or visit a deceased loved one at their final resting place. We desperately look for clarity, and look for the thing that will make us feel certain enough to actually do something about it.

Then it actually shows up.

An opportunity. The unexpected conversation. The random text. The extra money we didn’t realize we were receiving. Someone new you met at a bbq. An idea that just popped into your thoughts. The open door or the weird little sign that feels too specific to ignore. A feeling in your body or a voice in your head that says, “Pay attention. This is something.”

And instead of taking one step toward it, we start with the doubt and all the questions explaining why it’s random with no specific meaning.

Is this really the sign? What if I’m wrong? What if this isn’t it? What if I need one more confirmation? What if I’m making this up? What if I take the step and it doesn’t work out? What if I look stupid? What if I lose something? What if I’m being tested? What if the Universe could maybe send the same exact message again, but this time in a way that doesn’t scare the crap out of me?

All the dream killing “what ifs”.

I get it. Trust me. I’ve found myself in this exact place like 5 times in the last month.

It’s so cool when the sign shows up. When you get hit in the gut and you know it’s “the one” you’ve been waiting for. But then our ego gets involved and says “Well, its still only theoretical.”

Signs are fun when they show up on a license plate, in a song, on the clock at 11:11, or in a card pull that makes you gasp a little. But when the sign turns into an actual next step? When the answer asks you to actually do something with it? When the opportunity requires movement? That’s when the journey gets hard.

I had a client recently tell me that she prays a lot. Prayer helps her anxiety. It helps her feel connected to something bigger than the chaos in her own mind. It gives her somewhere to put the things she can’t control.

And I understood that completely.

But as we kept talking, something became really clear. She was asking for guidance, and I genuinely believe guidance was showing up. But when the answers came in the form of opportunities, choices, conversations, invitations, or small next steps, she would freeze.

Forgive my French but my exact words were: “You’re asking God to help you and when he/she/it/they sends the help, you shit all over it because you don’t like the kind of help that was sent.”

The answers came but they didn’t fit into what she wanted in her “perfect” world. But I guarantee you the next steps that appeared were exactly what she needed.

Once the answer shows up, we have to do something with it. We have to take the walk. Or, in the spirit of my Curated Roads Club conversation, we have to take the drive.

That doesn’t mean you hand your whole life over and say, “Okay Universe, take the wheel,” while you climb into the backseat and hope everything works out. And it also doesn’t mean you grip the wheel so tightly that God, the Universe, your intuition, your higher self, and every sign along the way are basically duct-taped in the trunk because you’ve decided you’re the only one allowed to navigate.

Co-creation is somewhere in between.

It’s not passive. It’s not controlling. It isn’t manipulative. It’s a relationship.

It’s a relationship between you and GUS.

Let me introduce you to GUS.

G. U. S.

God. Universe. Spirit.

Sometimes you drive. Maybe GUS drives. You shut up and listen. Other times you get to talk and GUS listens to you. You slow down. You pull over. At times you realize you’ve been forcing a road that doesn’t belong to you. Other times you get a nudge to take a turn that makes no logical sense yet, but something in your body says, “Hey you. Don’t ignore this.”

You ask GUS to make an appearance in your life and GUS shows up at the door, keys in hand while your standing on the other side of the door hoping GUS will think you aren’t home and just go away. Or instead of opening the door and jumping into the car anxiously excited, you yell at GUS that you can’t go yet because you don’t have the perfect outfit or you feel too bloated to leave the house.

LMAO. You know you’re laughing too right now.

I’m hyper aware of this in my own life. I’ve been working through my relationship with GUS for quite some time. One thing I know is that GUS might shake its head and chuckle a little when I tell it to take a hike but eventually, my desperate inquiries will return. Same problems. Same inquiry or request. And GUS always shows up. Shaking its head and laughing but ALWAYS shows up.

The Universe knows with every prayer, request, or question whether or not I’m full of crap or I’m actually willing to work with what they send me. The signs, symbols, messages, and intuitive hits always seem to get stronger when I’m living closer to my authentic self. Not because I become more psychically connnected or because I unlocked some secret spiritual Wi-Fi. It’s because I’m less busy fighting myself.

When I’m aligned, I don’t need the sign to scream. I can feel the quiet yes. I can feel the subtle no. I can tell when something has energy behind it and when something is just my ego, fear, and doubts trying to run the show.

But when I’m disconnected from myself, I want proof. I want the message to look exactly the way I ordered it. I want God to confirm my plan, not redirect it. I want the Universe to send me a sign, but preferably one that doesn’t mess with my comfort zone, my timeline, my control issues, my family dynamics, my money fears, or the version of myself I’m trying very hard to keep together.

This is where the healing work comes in.

Because sometimes we ask for signs, but we only want the signs that support the decision we already made in our head. We ask for direction, but we reject the road because it doesn’t look like the one we pictured. We say we’re confused when really we’re scared. More often than not we say, “I don’t know what to do,” when somewhere underneath all the noise and chaos, we actually do know.

We just don’t like what the knowing requires.

That’s not a judgment. That’s human.

We’re not robots. We’re not floating light beings making every decision from perfect peace while sipping moon water. We’re humans with bills, bodies, trauma, kids, relationships, aging parents, exes, jobs, histories, nervous systems, fear, hopes, dreams, and old programming that loves to grab the wheel at the worst possible time.

So of course we hesitate. Of course we ask for more confirmation. Of course we want the whole map before we move.

But at some point, the question becomes: am I asking for guidance, or am I asking to be rescued from the responsibility of choosing?

Yikes. That one stings right? Like a punch in the gut?

But it’s important.

Because God can show you the door and the Universe can put the opportunity in front of you. Your intuition can send you the downloads and ideas. The signs can line up. The cards can reflect it. The dream can repeat. The same message can come through five different people in five different ways.

But eventually, you still have to decide if you’re willing to walk with it.

You still have to take the step. You still have to make the call, have the conversation, open the email, ask the question, show up, slow down, tell the truth, say yes, say no, or admit that the road you’re on no longer feels like yours.

That’s the part that we don’t want surrender to. We want the answer, but we don’t always want the responsibility of living differently once we receive it.

It’s not just asking for signs. It’s building enough trust within YOU. You are the human that has to take the signs and messages and have faith in yourself that human you won’t F it all up. YOU have to take action.

I think so many of us get stuck because we believe that if something is meant for us, it should feel easy. But sometimes the thing that’s meant for you feels scary because it’s asking you to become someone who can actually hold it.

The new relationship. The new business. The old relationship. The toxic job you need to leave. The healing. The conversation. The move. The boundary. The visibility. The forgiveness. The release. The dream you keep pretending you don’t want because wanting it feels too vulnerable.

Sometimes the sign doesn’t come to make you comfortable. Sometimes it comes to make you honest. Do you actually want this? And if you do, you have to accept that nuance exists in all of it and it’s ok to be scared but take the next step.

So before you ask GUS for another sign, maybe pause and ask yourself what’s really happening. Did I already receive guidance, but I don’t like what it requires? Am I asking for clarity, or am I asking for certainty? Am I waiting for peace, or am I waiting for a guarantee? Am I rejecting this because it feels wrong, or because it feels scary? What is the smallest step I can take without needing to know the whole route?

Because taking the drive doesn’t mean you have to speed down the highway with your eyes closed yelling, “I trust the Universe!”

Please don’t do that. Spiritually or literally.

Just open the door when GUS comes knocking.

Taking the drive might mean you turn the car on. Maybe you only back out of the driveway. It might mean you just sit in the driveway for 15 minutes, change your mind and go straight back into the house. Better than not walking out the door.

Or maybe you take a whole ass 300 mile drive in one day.

Take or make the phone call. Ignore or respond to the text. Go look at the house or apt even if you don’t know how you’re going to pay for it. Write the idea down.

You’re just saying, “ Yes, I’m curious. Let’s go. WE got this.”

Fear doesn’t equate to a no.

Stop with the avoidance already!!!

You don’t have to marry the sign. You don’t have to commit your whole life to the first breadcrumb. You don’t have to know how the entire road ends. You just have to be willing to move with the message long enough to see what it’s trying to show you.

That’s what I keep learning.

Co-creation is not me controlling the whole route. It’s also not me refusing to drive and then getting annoyed that nothing is changing. It’s a relationship between trust and action. Between surrender and responsibility. Between listening and moving.

Between GUS showing up at the door and me being willing to say, “Okay. I’ll get in the car.”

Or maybe, “Okay. I’ll take the drive without finding the perfect outfit first.” LOL.

So maybe the next time we ask for a sign, we also need to ask for the courage to receive it. Not just admire it or screenshot it. Not just tell our friend about it. Not just pull seven more cards and ask AI to analyze it from twelve different angles while we remain fully parked unwilling to put the car in drive.

Receive it.

Walk with it.

Drive with it.

Let it show you what’s next.

Maybe the road won’t make sense until you’re actually on it.

And maybe the answer you’ve been asking for is already here.

Standing at the door.

Keys in hand.

Waiting to see if you’re willing to take the drive.